- I get that pay rise.
- I have that house.
- I lose those 5kg.
- I win that award.
Of course, it’s all a lie.
Once we get that pay rise, have that house, lose those 5kg or win that award, we celebrate, but are soon right back to where we started. We just go looking for the very next thing that needs to be ticked off from our list.
The truth is, long-term happiness isn’t found from the outside.
It comes from how we view and interact with the world, not about what the world gives back to us. Scientific research suggests just 10% of our total long-term happiness is influenced by our life circumstances.
When we instead practice the art of embracing the strengths that we have today, cultivating the relationships that mean the most to us now, contributing to something greater than ourselves and having gratitude for what we have already got, we give up our search for happiness by looking into the future.
And this allows us to appreciate and find happiness in the present.